“My friend and I were listening to your CD this morning and I thought I’d give you an update on what’s going on in my life. You and I met last month at the retreat in the Berkshires. At the time I told you about how my marriage was failing and how my husband was so far from Yiddeshkeit and vehemently against any progress I was making, to the point where he said it was breaking our marriage apart and he couldn’t live with me under these circumstances any longer.
Well, since our meeting, just a short time ago, he has done a 180 degree turnaround! He is faithfully coming with me to visit friends on Shabbos, he is allowing me to keep a kosher kitchen (Oy! this means I really have no excuse now!), I am covering my head with stylish hats (which he thinks looks really nice on me) and I am keeping mikveh. All with 100% consent from him.
He told me he loves me very much and does not want to leave. We’re seeing a therapist (not Jewish, so we agreed that if we have any issues about observance and Judaism we’d consult one particular Chabad shliach whom we both trust and respect).
I’ve been so patient for so many years. I’ve tried so hard not to step on his toes or force it on him. But one can never underestimate the power of prayer. I began to daven earnestly and he changed his mindset — just like that! He had also been complaining that we don’t have enough money to buy kosher and you know what? I said to Hashem, please give us the means so I can keep your mitzvos! And you know what? The next day we suddenly had a $350 increase in our monthly income! No kidding! I also prayed, please Hashem, help him find work (he’s been out of work for a couple of years now) so we have the means to kasher our kitchen and give more tzedakah, and just a few days later he came up with a viable work prospect, which, as of today, looks like it will work out!
I read your book, and thought, this is too good to be true. How can one woman witness so many miracles in her lifetime? But it’s true, Hashem does hear us and helps us to keep His Torah. I don’t know why I should be so surprised, but until it happens it’s hard to believe. My husband still thinks much of this is silliness and he has a long way to go (I guess we all do), but I know in time, with patience and prayer, one day it will happen. And with my husband, nothing is less than 110%. When he gets there, he’ll be the biggest chassid in the community!
Thank you so much, Sarah, for your support and encouraging words. You’ve given me the koyach to keep on when I wanted to quit.
Take care. I’ll check in from time to time and let you know of our progress.”